Looking after your own mental health and wellbeing is an important part of being a parent or carer. Parenting is a full time job - as well as the rewards, it can be tiring and stressful. If you feel low or stressed - it can feel even harder.
You may worry that you will be judged, or people will think you are not able to be a good parent because you are finding things hard. Lots of parents struggle at times with their mental health and are still very good parents.
Even very young children are tuned in to how their parents are feeling and will worry about you. They may not be able to explain this. They might instead start ‘acting out’ or seem sad and clingy. The whole family benefits when parents take care of themselves.
Feeling Low Or Depressed
Everyone has times when they feel down. It might be because of challenges you are facing in your life, or you might not know why you are feeling low. It is normal to sometimes feel like this.
When you feel ‘low’ you may feel; sad, anxious, worried, frustrated or angry. You might feel better if;
Usually ‘feeling low’ will pass after a few days. You should have more time when you feel fine than when you don’t.
When Should I Get More Help?
You might need more help if;
This could mean you are becoming depressed. It is important you tell someone and get professional help. See your GP to talk about this and / or get in touch with Norfolk Wellbeing Services.
If you do not feel ‘safe’ and think you might hurt yourself, you should ask for an emergency GP appointment or go to A&E.
It is natural to feel worried at times. You might have something particular you are worrying about, or you might not know what is causing the anxious feelings. Either way it can feel overwhelming and be difficult to cope with.
It can help to:
When Should I Get More Help?
You might need more help if:
If you experience any of the following, it is important to seek help. Support will make life easier for you.
If you are struggling like this please talk to a professional about it. See your GP to talk about this and/or get in touch with Norfolk Wellbeing Services.
Feeling Lonely
Parenting can sometimes feel lonely. You might not have close family or friends nearby. You might not know other parents with children locally.
You might live alone with your children, but people can also feel lonely even when they are in a relationship. You might have struggled to make friends before you had children, or you may have lost your confidence a bit since they were born.
It is good for our mental wellbeing to have other grown ups to talk to and to share the highs and lows of life with.
Spending Time With Others
You might have lost touch with old friends and family whilst you have been busy with your family and feel embarrassed to get back in touch. It is always worth trying to reconnect. Send a text or a card, explain that you miss them and see if they want to catch up. You have nothing to lose! You may have moved to a new area and feel ready to meet new people.
You might find other parents in a similar situation at nursery or school, or even at the local park. Just smiling and saying hello to begin with can start off a connection. Be aware of your body language, it can be easy to give off ‘don’t talk to me‘ signals if you are feeling a bit nervous. Take a few slow deep breaths to help you feel ready to meet people.
You can find local parents keen to meet others by:
If you have the time volunteering, starting a course or finding work can be a good way of meeting new people too.
You can contact the Healthy Child Service team by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
If you are 11-19 you can text ChatHealth on 07480 635060 for confidential advice from one of our team.
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