Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is when your child feels strong emotional pain because of a failure or feeling rejected.
Most people have instinctive ways to help them deal with the sadness and pain of feeling rejected, but autistic people and those with ADHD sometimes don't have that ability. Instead, they can react very badly to anything they see as criticism. They might feel it as an intense physical pain and they could struggle to contain their feelings of anger.
If your child has RSD, it might be difficult for them to explain how it feels, because the characteristics can be very intense and unlike any other form of physical or emotional pain. If your child has ADHD, it's important to be aware of the possibility of RSD, so that you can seek help and treatment if necessary.
People with RSD often show the following behaviours:
It can be difficult to manage RSD on your own, so it's important to see a health professional for advice. Recognising the signs early and adopting strategies to cope can make a big difference to the overall effect of RSD.
It's important to understand what causes RSD and why it happens so that you are fully able to help your child.
Being patient and avoiding frequent criticism will also help - remember your child struggles with feelings of rejection and criticism. Choose your words carefully and focus on their strengths rather than their weaknesses.
You could also speak to your child about being resilient and try to help them cope with feelings of failure. Let them know it is okay to make mistakes and to receive constructive criticism. If they don't do something correctly the first time, they can try again.
Don't tell them they are being over-sensitive when they feel rejected, let them know that their feelings are valid, but try to help them see the situation from a different, more positive angle.
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We've been working together in Norfolk and Waveney with families and professionals to put together information, advice and resources that are helpful to families. Let us know what you think, and anything we could change or add to make it even better.
If you live in Norfolk
You can contact the Healthy Child Service team by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
If you are 11-19 you can text ChatHealth on 07480 635060 for confidential advice from one of our team.
If you live in Waveney
Norfolk SEND Local Offer provide information and advice on services for young people with additional needs in Norfolk.
Suffolk SEND Local Offer provide information and advice on services for young people with additional needs in Waveney.
Mencap is a national charity who support people with learning disabilities. They offer a free Learning Disability Helpline with advice and guidance. Call 0808 808 1111 to speak to a trained professional.
Kooth offers online counselling, advice and emotional well-being support for anyone aged 10-18, seven days a week until 10pm.
