Having a baby can be an exciting time, but you might have mixed feelings as you find out and get used to the idea.
Whichever of these sounds most like you – there are a lot of thoughts and feelings on the journey to being a parent.
You will hear a lot from friends, family and on social media about other people’s experiences. Remember every pregnancy is different and try not to compare yourself with others.
You might be wondering;
You may feel happy and excited most of the time. Lots of people have times when they feel down in the dumps and stressed as well - this is normal.
There are a lot of changes happening in the body of the pregnant person, and emotionally for all the family. There is a lot to think about. Take your time to get used to the idea.
A lot of the early pregnancy symptoms get better as the weeks pass then it can feel easier to ‘enjoy’ being pregnant.
Getting Used To The Idea
Everybody adjusts to the idea of being a parent at their own pace. Try not to worry if you can’t quite believe it, or if you don’t feel as excited as you expected straight away.
Sometimes you and your partner may not feel the same way about the pregnancy at the same time.
Pregnancy sometimes feels real to the pregnant person sooner - because they are already experiencing the physical changes and lifestyle changes it brings. Try and talk together about how you are feeling and share the experience with each other.
Who Do I Have To Support Me?
You might have lots of people around you; a partner, family and friends and feel well supported.
You might feel worried if you have less people to support you
It is important that the people in your life are safe to be around for you and your baby. Take a look at our Family Networking page to help you think about who you know that might be able to support you.
If you feel worried speak to your midwife. You might want to look for advice or contact Leeway.
What Kind Of Parent Will I Be?
It is natural to worry about what you will be like as a parent – whether this is your first baby, or you have been here before. This pregnancy is a new experience for you and your family.
Working out what sort of parent you want to be is an important way to get ready for your baby.
Try not to worry too much. As parents you will be learning every day about what works best for you and your family. Remember no parent is perfect. You don’t need to be perfect for your child to feel loved, safe and cared for.
If your worries and feelings start to make every day a struggle, and feel too much to cope with - talk with your Midwife, GP or Health Visitor. The team are there to support both parents.
It is always better for both you and your baby, when you ask for help if you think you might need it. Your team are there to support you and will not judge you. They can help you understand your thoughts and feelings. They can help think of ways to make it feel better for you.
If you feel worried and want more advice you can speak to your midwife.
You can contact the Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123 or texting Parentline on 07520 631590. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
If you are 11-19 you can text Chathealth on 07480 635060 for confidential advice from one of the Healthy Child Programme team.